Saturday, January 31, 2015

What the ...?

One of our instructors from this weekend's yoga teacher training had us do an interesting activity. She suggested we get down on paper our true feelings about yoga. We were to take after her 10 year old daughter (also a lover of yoga) by writing a poem about what yoga means to us or how it's changed our lives.

I thought I would share my poem with you all. If you have attended a yoga class, you have probably felt the same feelings I describe in it. 

Enjoy!

Title: What the ...?

What the ...?
What is this feeling?
I am different, yet still the same.
I walked in here all crazy-like.
Monkey brain.
Everything mattered.
All was a mess.
Then, I was told to breathe.
To center myself.
To forget all those things on my mind, for just a little while.
I struggled with letting go of those things.
But I had to...as we moved on.
We all moved.
We moved in ways we weren't really supposed to, yet we still could.
We moved in ways that felt good...and in ways that didn't feel good at all.
But, we were reminded that when we didn't feel good, we could just breathe.
I've never breathed this way before.
But, it changed everything.
It changed all of us.
And here we all are now.
We're together.
And those thoughts? Now, they're nothing.
And I have nothing else to say, except...
What the ...?
And I love it.

Thank you for reading!

Sarah

Thursday, January 22, 2015

How to perpetuate peace with every single person in your life, per Patanjali.

At yoga teacher training last weekend, we had a discussion about the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali. After the discussion, I began reading the version of the Yoga Sutras that were translated by Sri Swami Satchindananda, an Indian religious teacher and spiritual master. I feel they are one of the most important things to learn about when becoming a yoga teacher or when researching the topic of yoga. Why? I feel they hold many keys to peace and happiness.

What are the Yoga Sutras? Per Wikipedia (my favorite source for information), “[they are] 196 Indian sutras, or aphorisms.” Hold up. What is an aphorism? A good example would be the phrase, “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” In other words, something that’s been noticed by many to be a general truth. The sutras make up the foundational text of Ashtanga yoga (the exercise of yoga as most of us know it), which is also known as Raja yoga (the yoga, or union, of the mind). “The Yoga Sutras were compiled around 400 CE by Patanjali, taking materials about yoga from older traditions.” These older traditions are so old that they cannot be traced from one single source. They've been passed down this far, however, because they've been regarded as truth for a very long time.


I was a little overwhelmed when I found out about the Yoga Sutras. 196 is a large number! Our instructor, however, made it easy for us. She told us precisely which one was the most helpful as to how to live a peaceful life. And, it turns out that Sri Swami agrees with her on which one is the most important to remember, too.

The sutra, translated into English, is as follows: "By cultivating attitudes of friendliness toward the happy, compassion for the unhappy, delight in the virtuous, and disregard toward the wicked, the mind-stuff remains its undisturbed calmness." Sri Swami says: "This sutra will be very helpful to you in keeping a peaceful mind in your daily life." 
How? Sri Swami states: "Patanjali gives four keys: friendliness, compassion, delight, and disregard. There are only four locks in the world. Keep these four keys always with you, and when you come across any one of these four locks, you will have the proper key to open it."

In our lives, Patanjali believes all people can be grouped into four categories:
the happy, the unhappy, the virtuous, and the wicked. Therefore, he suggests it's best to have these four attitudes towards each of those people: friendliness, compassion, gladness, and indifference. "If you use the right key with the right person you will retain your peace. Nothing in this world can upset you then," he says.   

I'll elaborate. Life cannot be lived without interaction with others, right? And, every relationship we have is not always in perfect peace, is it? Well, if we utilize these keys, we can obtain our own peace of mind as our relationships ebb and flow. 


The first key involves friendliness. 
We will always come across those who are happy. Good things happen to other people all the time. It is a very common feeling to have jealousy towards others we see who are happy, especially when we are not. But, by being jealous, "you will not disturb the other person, but you disturb your own serenity".

An example of me being jealous of others' happiness occurs whenever I hear about a friend or family member who had a baby. On occasion, when I'm scrolling through my news feed on Facebook and I see a barrage of baby pictures, I actually sometimes tear up! It's that bad! (Immediately, though, I take a nice long break from Facebook.) You see, my husband and I have been trying to have a child for about a year and a half. I am aware that's not a very long time for us to have been trying, but, I'm extremely impatient. Our inability to have kids has really been a test for me, and it's been a powerful one, because I definitely feel I need to work on my patience. I hate waiting for anything.


That being said, I'm actually also totally thrilled whenever I see or hear about others who have had kids, but a piece of me, deep inside, is jealous. I'll admit it. This is where Patanjali's first "key" can really help me. If you're ever jealous of anyone, just be happy for them. I know I'd rather just be happy for someone than jealous of them. If a baby is meant to happen for us, it will. What's the point of pouting in the meantime?

The second key involves compassion. This one is the opposite of the first key. If you see those who are unhappy, try to help them, if you can. Sri Swami says, "if you can lend a helping hand, do it. Be merciful, always. By doing that, you will retain the peace and poise of your mind." If you help someone in need, they will be grateful to you and you will ease your mind, and you'll feel better about giving to them as well. 

About nine years ago, I was 60 pounds heavier. I lost the weight by keeping a food journal and I began running. It took me about a year to shed that weight, and I learned a great deal in the process. After I had done it, many people took notice. My brother came to me several years later, asking for my assistance, as he wanted to lose some weight, too. I told him it wouldn't be easy, but he said he really wanted to. We worked together to find some food plans that would work for him and I also worked out along with him for awhile. In fact, he became so motivated that he ran his first marathon last year. AND he lost the weight! I have never been so proud of him. It was very fulfilling to help him because I know how much of a struggle it was to make such a large life change. It was tough for both of us, but it felt so good to help him.


The third key involves gladness for those who are virtuous. Sri Swami says to not envy virtuous people. "Don't try to pull them down. Appreciate the virtuous qualities in them and try to cultivate them in your own life." For whatever reason, when I first thought of a virtuous person, I thought of Oprah Winfrey. I think I thought of her because I always hear about how giving and philanthropic she is. There have been times when I've been just tired of hearing her name, since, for many years in my life, she was very often talked about in the media. I suppose the same can be said for other celebrities. On many occasions, it looks like they are just putting their money towards charities so that they can build good publicity for themselves. It pays for me to give them the benefit of the doubt, though, as I wonder if I would do the same, if I were them. It seems much more honorable to give your extra money towards helping others rather than to buy another expensive car or home. I think of it like this: why purchase more so you have more to worry about? Patanjali's words have helped me to see that what some celebrities are doing with their money might not just be a publicity stunt. 

The final key involves indifference. Sri Swami says, "we come across wicked people sometimes. We can't deny that. So what should be our attitude? Indifference. Don't try to advise such people because wicked people seldom take advice. If you try to advise them, you will lose your peace."


Regarding the wicked people in my life, well, I don't want to use any names. This is the Internet, after all! I am very lucky to say that I have run across very few wicked people. But, I do run into them sometimes. I think it is very easy to avoid wicked people. You just don't want to be near them, not one bit. Follow your feelings when it comes to people like that. They're impossible to change. You may wish to help them, but Patanjali is right in that all of your efforts will be wasted. To help yourself and to help the world, deal with the person if you must to get your business done with them, but then, just go on living, and try to set a good example. And, if you're into that sort of thing, pray for that person. That is pretty much the only thing I think we can do. All we all can do for those types of people is hope that they see the light eventually. Otherwise, we're just working on something that cannot be worked on...and causing ourselves more stress trying to change them. 


So, do your pockets or purses feel a little more heavy now that they've got these four fabulous new keys in them? Trust me, the weight is worth it! I think the more peaceful the relationships in our lives are, the more peace of mind we will have.

Sarah 

Saturday, January 10, 2015

Kid's yoga isn't a silly idea. It's a groundbreaking one.

I have been enlightened by an epiphany yet again!


Last weekend at yoga teacher training, Jill Gault, co-owner and teacher at Empower Yoga, walked me and my fellow yoga teachers-to-be through a kid's yoga class.


I was a little worried it wasn't going to resonate very much with me as I have no intentions of teaching yoga for children and, well, I thought it'd be really silly.


Well, it was silly. But, in a very, very good way. I'll explain.


When we finished, I felt light in heart and body. I felt joyous and energized. I felt, very simply, happy. Then, I imagined...what if our kids felt this exact same way after they did a similar class during the school day? It brought a gigantic smile to my face.


This was most certainly not a waste of time of our yoga teacher training!


What exactly did the kid's yoga class entail? It began with all of our yoga mats faced towards the middle of the room, in a circle. We sat cross-legged and repeated after the teacher: "I am amazing. I am loved." And, repeat. These were done in conjunction with calm, steady, deep breathing. It instantly calmed me.


Then, we played a game. We got into pairs and one of us assumed Downward Facing Dog pose (where your hands and feet are on the ground, and you're making a sort of upside-down "V" shape). The other would "walk the dog" by gently pulling on the collar of the other's shirt, guiding the "dog" through the room. This wonderful exercise taught teamwork as well as strengthened the "dog" participant's shoulders and legs.


Next, we did a hands-on project. Per Jill, this could involve something similar to what might be made in an art class or even something a little more practical that could be used during meditation. During our session, we made eye masks with cotton socks filled with rice and a few drops of lavender essential oil.


Towards the end of class, we did the "Yoga Slide" - an upbeat song with instruction during a recorded song. It was an extremely fun and light-hearted way to do some of the more simple yoga moves. For example, we all took tree pose, and swayed back and forth, expressing ourselves as if we were trees.


The kid's yoga class was fun and playful, yet so, so grounding and energizing. It made me think of all the benefits that I would have gleaned from going to such a class if it were to have been offered during my grade school years. I wonder how my school experience would have changed and how different my peers may have behaved or thought if doing classes were a part of the curriculum at school. It made my heart soar to know that there was potential for this type of learning to take place in our current school system. It made me, believe it or not, just a little bit more hopeful for the future of our children. Seriously, what if the inclusion of kid's yoga in the school days of our kids prevented even ONE misheard or misunderstood child from considering taking a gun to school and opening fire at random?


What if? The possibilities are boundless.


I asked Jill prior to our session what she feels are the benefits of including kid's yoga in the classroom. She says it has merit for a plethora of reasons. She thinks it's a good offset to what is common in classrooms now. There is constant sitting and more high-stakes standardized testing. Nowadays in schools there is a much more rigid and calculated approach to teaching. Most curriculum is very measured, regulated, and structured. It's very auto-tron and auto-matic. Is this the way real life is? Certainly not.


And wow, is it ever stressful. It's more stressful now than ever. Not only is everything I just described extremely stressful to kids, but simply dealing with peers and developing relationships is an ordeal. Because of the way that kids yoga classes can help kids feel, I really think that yoga could help them lead a less rigid life as well as a more open-hearted one. Yoga for kids promotes self-worth, self-expression, and self-confidence. Some of the themes I experienced in the yoga kids class that Jill took us through showed how we're all connected and encouraged positive relationships. In a previous blog entry, I wrote of how yoga has helped me not only love myself more, but also others much more as well. It's fabulous to see these themes played out in a kid's yoga class as well.


I am SO totally OK with there being more love in our schools. I don't think there's enough of it.


Thanks, Jill, for teaching us the class, and for spreading the love in our schools.


Sarah

Sunday, January 4, 2015

My two cents on New Year's Resolutions. (In short, why I think they're kinda silly.)



-Jack Canfield

What was your New Year's resolution? (It's cool if you didn't have one. I actually think they're a bad idea. I'll explain more about that in a bit. Some people do like them, though, and sometimes it's just fun to share.)

I'll tell you mine. I resolve, this year, to eat more peanut butter.

Definitely.

Along with that, though, I'd like to try to meditate more. The thing is, though, I have this "resolution" every single day. I've had it pretty much since the first day I meditated. It's just helped me so much, even though the first time I did it, it stressed me out even more. I don't really want to put a specific goal on how much longer I want to meditate, or how often, and I don't think that just because it was the first day of the year a few days ago I should try really hard to make this "resolution" happen.

Actually, I think resolutions as a result of the date on the calendar are a flawed idea. I think that the journey to better yourself is one that can be had all the time, regardless of the date.

Usually, when I hear others speak of their resolutions come January 1, they say that THIS year is the year they'll FINALLY get down to their goal. For whatever reason or excuse, they simply didn't do it last year. They find themselves in a struggle to get their goal done. For some of them, their goal has been one they've been trying to achieve for many years.

Why is it so hard for so many of us to finally make that change we've been wanting to make for so long?

We're afraid. We're afraid of the truth.

The woman who drinks whenever she's stressed out is afraid of stopping drinking because she thinks that her stressful feelings will never end if she doesn't drown them with alcohol.

The man who has a hard time saying "no" to sweets and treats that are offered to him as he attempts to eat healthier is afraid he will be judged or ridiculed because of his choices.

The woman who has never stepped inside a yoga studio to try a class she's always wanted to try is afraid of being judged because she's never practiced before in her life.

The man who is in an emotionally abusive relationship is terrified of leaving it for fear that no one else in the world will love him.

What are these people really afraid of? Nothing. Nothing at all. What proof do these people have that their fears will come true? None. They have no proof. The fears are illusions, stuck deep and dark in their heads.

Rolf Gates, in his book Meditations from the Mat, which is one of our required books for yoga teacher training, sums up beautifully what we need to do when faced with these fears. He writes: "Old fears must be released. Habits of silence must be examined. Are we failing to speak the truth out of a desire to care for or protect others? How do we respond to information we know to be untrue? How do we get in touch with what is true and good within ourselves? It was Plato who said:

'Truth is the beginning of every good thing, both in heaven and on earth; and he who would be blessed and happy should be from the first a partaker of truth, for then he can be trusted.'

Over time you will have the pleasure of watching this beautiful practice blossom in your life in a way that is honest and authentic. As you learn to speak the truth, you will learn to be true to yourself, to all that is best in you."

I am scared of the truth, too. I have been scared many times. I remember I was extremely scared back in high school when I wanted to lose weight. (In high school, I looked dramatically different from the way I do now.) My mother took me to a Weight Watchers meeting and I learned exactly what I had to do...I had to eat completely differently. I had to change everything I was used to eating. I had to give up, and cut down, on what I enjoyed the most. And...I was completely terrified.

But I really, really, wanted to lose weight.

So...I learned the program...and I followed it. I just did it. I knew there was no other way.

Rolf tells us in his book exactly how we can make those life changes that we know we so desperately want, yet are scared out of our minds to go get. He says, "Just do it. Act as if. Move with exaggerated grace and precision, and before long your body will get with the program. If you want to practice moderation, spend less, eat more slowly, take your to do list and cut it in half, make a beginning. We can count on the new and unfamiliar to be awkward. But the awkwardness of that first step is no reason for us to deny ourselves the opportunity to have balance in a given area of our lives. We will have the degree of grace in our lives that we permit ourselves to have."

I hated that first week that I was on Weight Watchers. For the work that I did, however, I earned a gold star. That following week, I was invited to stand in front of the group so I could be applauded for losing five pounds after my first week on the program. The leaders of the group asked me what I did that helped me to reach my goal so that others could learn from what helped me. I had no idea that anyone cared what I had done. I remember exactly how I felt that night as I stood in front of all those other men and women who, I knew, were struggling just as I was. I was elated. My heart soared. I learned so much and had really begun to achieve my goal. I had hope. I felt free.

For those with resolutions, just imagine how you would feel if you let go of those fears and just did what you know, in your heart, you had to do, in order to achieve that goal that you set for yourself the beginning of this year. Or, the goal you set for yourself last year...five years ago...twenty years ago.

Just imagine. It could be SO beautiful. In fact, I know it will be.

So...just do it. You know what you need to do. Face the fear! It will be absolutely, totally, and completely satisfying. It's worth it.

I wish you the best of luck!

Sarah